Monday, 27 January 2020

Living the screen dream...

This past weekend we decided, spur of the moment, to take a trip to the coast and get the kids some vitamin sea. We live about an hour and a half away from some of the most beautiful beaches in the world, so we hardly need an excuse to pack everyone up and head down to Durban for a night.


The weather played out of its boots - an absolutely beautiful day on the beach, with a slight breeze and refreshing, clear water. There's nothing better than exhausted, happy, sun-kissed bodies having a midday nap whilst mom and dad catch up on some of the Australian Open...bliss.




On our way back up the hill, we thought it would be nice to take the wildlings to watch a movie at the cinema - an outing that was met with much excitement from two little bare-footed country bumpkins! As they weaved through the throngs of people in the mall, laughing wildly without a care in the world, my heart swelled with pride and happiness for these two little people of ours. Not a care in the world and so much life to live. The disparaging looks from mall patrons only made me chuckle as I really do pity people who take life so seriously, and can't see that two little happy kids running through a mall, bare-footed and fancy-free is something to aim for, not shy away from.

As we reached the cinema complex, something became startlingly clear to me. Nearly every single person that we had passed in the mall was on their phone.

A couple in a coffee shop, two steaming cups of java between them, both slouched in their chairs staring at their screens. The security guard at the top of the escalators, the attendant behind the ticket counter, the cleaner in the toilets...and everywhere I looked I could find them. Earphones in, vacant bored expressions on their faces, completely sucked into their screens. 

Disturbing, but perhaps I'm overreacting right?

As we entered the movie theatre, the same condition persisted. Children that couldn't be older than eight or nine, attached to their cellphones. Throughout the movie there were constant notifications and even a few phone calls - kids unable, or more accurately, unwilling to turn off their devices for the duration of a Disney movie. There was even a child in the row in front of us who was playing a game on his phone throughout the movie, with his earphones in. At one point I had to get up to take my child to the toilet, so i rummaged in my handbag for our tickets (surely we would need them to get back in?) and made a sneaky exit - straight past the door attendant who didn't even look up from her screen in acknowledgement of my explanation that we were just quickly going out and would be back. The same reaction from the steward at the entrance to the complex, although he did give me a cursory wave with his hand as if to say move on now. After we had finished in the toilets, we made our way back to the theatre without any challenge or acknowledgement from any of the staff - we could have been anyone just walking in and they wouldn't have cared. 

I pointed this out to the hubster as we were making our way back through the crowds after our movie. We jokingly counted how many patrons we could find that were not on their phones, but the actual count was really nothing to joke about. I can't believe that there were so many people disengaged from the present, completely lost to their tiny world of technology. Its confusing enough to me that you're inside a mall on a beautiful beach day, but to be sucked into your phone on top of it, and not even engaging with the people with you, makes me really sad. Its like they were all just wafting about in a dreamlike daze, bored and indifferent of the world around them, seeking gratification and verification through their devices. 

As we got back to the car, I automatically reached for my phone to check my messages. None. No-one looking for me, no missed calls. And it made me think how, through technology, we are under constant pressure to be available at all times, to everyone, for everything. Its a constant form of anxiety, thinking that you need to have your phone with you at all times just in case someone needs you. It's also an easy escape from reality, a place to post enviable social updates and shop for specials online, a distraction from boredom. A place to disengage from the "mundane, predictable, ordinary" everyday life that we live. A life that we should be embracing and experiencing every single day. A life that we should be living, not tweeting. 

It made me realise that you don't have to succumb to this time-devouring, anxiety inducing device. Do yourself a favour and put it away. Turn off your notifications, and challenge yourself to be less dependant on your phone. Put it down and pick up those running shoes, or go play outside with your kids. If someone needs you, they can wait - you need you sometimes too. Be present in the now and stop being available to everyone else but yourself. Your phone will still be there when you're done living for the moment.

So next time you're bored and reach for your phone, remember to pause - look up. Appreciate everything that is around you, take in the sights and the sounds. Greet random strangers, stop and smell the roses.

You might be surprised at how much you have been missing.


Friday, 10 January 2020

Would you believe it.... A Blogpost!

Greetings avid readers and time-wasters (yes, you, reading this blog instead of doing something far more useful)...

I'm back.

It only took 2 years...but I said I would write again, and here I am. Granted, I only have the time due to having to be at early morning dairy earlier than usual as we have a wonderful thing called loadshedding in South Africa now, which is becoming the norm on most days. This is the process of limiting electrical supply to consumers in order to reduce the load on the generating plant - a result of several years of poor planning and implementation of maintenance to our ageing electrical infrastructure in South Africa. So we make due with generators and rising diesel costs to try and compensate - the ever present challenges of dairy farming!

Since we last spoke, South Africa has been in the grip of a crippling drought, and we have had some trying times on the farm in the past two years. For the first time in my life I have felt true desperation and hopelessness. Being so dependant on the weather is a risky business and I have come to appreciate every small drop of rain and beam of sunlight. Without these things, life is not possible - both literally and figuratively. I look out my window now, this morning, as the rain softly patters on the shed roof, and I am filled with hope and gratitude. We are still here, we are still farming, we are still positive, most days...

Our little family has grown up too since we last spoke, and I watch in wonder as our two daughters play, learn and grow together every day. I am grateful that we are able to provide them with the best place for little minds and bodies to flourish, and I remind myself everyday what a privilege it is for them to grow up on a farm surrounded by nature and a loving, supportive community.


 Without getting all deep and philosophical now, I will say that I look forward to this new chapter of blogposts, as I am so ready to start writing again. I have missed tapping into my creative juices - a part of myself that has been put on pause whilst raising two little wildlings. 

That having been said, I will wish you adieu for now. I know that we have a lot to catch up on, so I promise that the next post wont be far away! Part of my New Year's resolutions is to spend more time doing the things I love and less time worrying about pleasing everyone else and trying to spread my time over too many menial tasks. The year 2020 is the year that I say no to everyone else and yes to myself. 

Have a wonderful day, dear reader, and we will chat again soon.

xxxxx